I think it depends on each individual's personality some, but it's probably worst for whomever perceives his or herself as the primary caregiver. Men are less likely to see themselves this way, and women more likely, regardless of parenting arrangements, because of deeply ingrained societal norms (and maybe "traditional" biological roles, too? idk.) I don't feel a lot of guilt, but I do feel a lot of rage at the fact that I can't spend much time with my son (26 mo) because thanks to the way our society is set up on the US, I have to work a relatively high paying (based on my qualifications) full time job in order for us to afford childcare. Working part time, or any of the lower paying, more flexible FT jobs I might be able to find with my skill set, isn't really an option at the moment. he's growing so fast and I feel like I'm missing it. My husband loves him to bits and is an involved father, but doesn't seem to feel this as much.
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